I should probably state this right off the bat. I am not a “fun” type of person. When people say my name the word “fun” is not usually associated with me. Don’t get me wrong. I like to have fun, do fun things and laugh and stuff, but I am generally serious.

My type of fun is having deep discussions, exploring new places, trying new things. I will sit at a bar and throw back a few drinks, but I would not be the one to ever suggest this. I would much rather sit at home and drink some wine and chat.

I don’t have a myspace account filled with crazy pictures of me and my girls going out, doing shots, getting crazy. Nope. Not me. I don’t have millions of friends leaving me silly messages and open invitations of “let’s go get together!”

I don’t have a lot of real life friends. And… I like it that way.

I would rather have a few good friends that are chill and “boring” like me. Dinner at a nice restaurant with conversation is fun for me. I don’t want to be asked to go out to the local bar with a bunch of people I don’t know. I also don’t like the look of annoyance when I turn them down to do this- again. It’s just not me, it hasn’t been for years, and I am not sure it ever will be me again.

I want to be there for my friends and have them be there for me. I don’t want drama or someone telling me what to do. I want support and understanding. I want to be helpful to my friends, someone they know they can count on to listen. My friends must understand that my family is priority number one and that they take up most of my time.

I think it’s important to have friends, but to me, it’s the quality of friends I have that’s important; not the quantity. I am lucky to have a few friends that understand me and are on a similar wave length. While it may not make for some interesting pictures and videos, it does make me smile. And to me, that’s what having friends is about.

I wrote this for the CHBM’s collaboration on friendship.

This post is only a reflection on my friends in real life. My friends online seem to be a completely different story and is another post in itself…

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