Morbidity…
I am a natural born stressor. I stress, than I stress some more. I have stressed since a few weeks after my Ty was born over the matter of what would happen to my boys if my hubby and I die before they are adults. In normal situations, usually the children would go to family or close friends. My husband and I aren’t really comfortable with any of these people raising our children.
We won’t even let his parents babysit for a day. We don’t feel my parents would raise them in the way we would like and have enough patience with them. J’s sister we will get to at a later date. My sister would probably do a good job, but we are concerned about her husband and they already have 2 girls.
My youngest brother is one of my boy’s idols but he is an alcoholic and can’t even keep his own life together. My middle brother will soon have 4 boys of his own, and neither him or my sis-in-law have jobs. My oldest brother, well, lets just say he recently got out of jail after a few years there. We also don’t have any super close friends. So here lies my problem.
I am worried that if anything did happen, the matter would be decided in court and that is the last thing I want my boys to have to go through if they are already dealing with the death of us.A would go to her mom’s, so at least one child would be cared for, I guess. I have gotten to the point where I have thought about listing a help wanted ad. Just kidding. I have really been stressing about this lately. Any suggestions out there?
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4 Responses to “Morbidity…”
July 5th, 2006 at 9:21 pm
It is such a hard decision. We were faced with a similar situation, finally settled on my sister, who would do a great job but is married to a career military man, which means they move constantly and we really didn’t want that for our kids.
Our runners up were close friends down the street who raise their kids as we would like ours to be raised. We figured that if it came to that, we would be gone, and our families wouldn’t be able to rant at us about our choice…
Do you have close friends you could ask???
July 5th, 2006 at 9:23 pm
Whoops, just caught the close friends thing there.
Would A’s mom take your kids too??? What ar the issues with your sister’s husband? If you got a big enough life insurance policy, you could make sure $ wouldn’t be an issue with the 4 kids…
July 5th, 2006 at 10:49 pm
Hmmmm… What about your husband’s parents? I don’t think you mentioned them? You’ve brought up a good point- I don’t think we’ve even thought about this, I guess it’s something I can’t bear to think about. But, now that you’ve mentioned it….
July 6th, 2006 at 8:33 am
This is a tough one.
I think you don’t need to worry about someone that already has a few kids- it’s not likely to happen and it would be better for them to go to someone you trust than someone you don’t. Leave enough money for them, they’ll all be school age soon enough, and the “burden” of taking care of your kids would really be a relief compared to them being faught over in court or sent to strangers.
(I already have five kids and I’d much rather take my friend’s 4 or 5 kids than to see them raised in a bad environment.)
Talk to your most trusted family member and see what they think.
In the mean time, make some friends you can trust.