Motherhood- it’s not what you think
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Dear Me in 1995,
As you are leaving your own childhood behind and looking towards your future, please keep this in mind. Motherhood is not what you think. Actually, I am not sure you are thinking about the meaning of being a mother at all. You are just steering your course to settle down into marriage and motherhood and I would advise you to wait. Don’t rush!
There are so many things you want to do with your life! Travel, try new things, eat at restaurants, go to the bathroom alone, sleep! Once you have kids all those things will be extremely difficult to do. Life will not be about what you want to do anymore; but more about what your want to do for your children.
Your quest for fashion will be put out on the street. You will go from wondering if the cut of your black pants are last season to wondering if the cut of your pants will hide the leftover baby bulge. Your tops will go from sexy to tomato saucy. And your hair. Styled perfection to once a week washing.
Motherhood will push you to your limits and then some. There are so many lessons that would be helpful to learn before having children. If you rush, you will have to drag your children through them with you. I would not suggest this if at all possible. You are going to want to be on top of your game before adding a few more lives you are responsible for into the mix.
But here is a secret I will let you in… when it happens, you will be alright. As difficult as motherhood is, you will survive. As many dreams you put on hold, new ones will emerge. At times you will wonder who is growing more- your children or yourself (and I am not talking about the waistline!)
For every little smile you see in the morning will erase the previous day’s faults. The big sloppy wet kisses you get hourly will do more for your self-esteem than any pair of fashionable pants. Your dreams of exotic travel will eagerly be replaced for the wild eyes your child flashes as you chase them around the house with tickles. The first time your child writes his name will make you as happy as the first time you get your own article published.
Motherhood is not what you think, Me of 1995. Your own mother made it look a lot easier than it really turns out to be! Motherhood is not what you think, Me of 1995. It is way better than you could ever imagine!
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21 Responses to “Motherhood- it’s not what you think”
September 4th, 2007 at 5:55 pm
That is one great letter! I love the line about the pants!
September 4th, 2007 at 10:38 pm
I’m always amazed at how easy our moms sometimes made motherhood look! I really did think it wasn’t that hard! But now I realize that by the time I was aware enough to pay attention to what my mom did for us, she’d been doing it for a long time.
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September 4th, 2007 at 11:09 pm
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September 5th, 2007 at 12:38 am
As many dreams you put on hold, new ones will emerge
A lovely line. I really enjoyed this piece.
September 5th, 2007 at 1:26 am
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to write a letter to our younger selves, to warn them, or just to reassure them.
September 5th, 2007 at 5:46 am
Oh, boy! Isn’t it true. I’m not sure what I expected, but it’s nothing like it. It’s harder, and better, and way more mysterious-feeling that’s for sure. Great post!
September 5th, 2007 at 9:44 am
Oh, great spin. I have really wanted to try one of these “Dear Me in…” posts. Maybe I will experiment with a letter to my pre-kids self.
September 5th, 2007 at 10:24 am
“At times you will wonder who is growing more- your children or yourself”
So, so true.
Beautiful post!
September 5th, 2007 at 1:38 pm
“As many dreams you put on hold, new ones will emerge.” Best line ever!
Incredible post!
Oh and the “from sexy to tomato saucy”- awesome!
September 5th, 2007 at 4:39 pm
Great post . . . I loved the line about tops going from sexy to tomato saucy too. Puts a whole new meaning on, “I’m feeling a bit saucy, babe,” doesn’t it?
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September 5th, 2007 at 9:28 pm
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September 5th, 2007 at 9:44 pm
So very true. It is amazing how our priorities change. One generation becomes the next.
September 5th, 2007 at 10:06 pm
This is beautifully written! I’d love to write a letter back to myself of 1995 too - so many things I’d want to say… Motherhood is definitely better than I ever could’ve imagined too!
September 6th, 2007 at 11:36 am
Oh, the things I’d have to tell my childless self in a letter! How I’d love to go to the bathroom without an audience…and speaking of clean hair-it’s naptime and I can shower alone!
September 7th, 2007 at 12:05 am
This is so beautiful.
September 7th, 2007 at 8:26 am
I really love this post. I feel like I’ve lived two different lives, and if only I could have sent a message to the old me to prepare her better! I feel like she’s someone I used to know and was very fond of, and it would be nice to correspond with her once in a while. Beautiful writing.
September 7th, 2007 at 8:17 pm
What a clever and insightful post - and extremely well written. Wish I could have given some advice to my 1995 self to. Wish even more that I would have listened had I heard it : )
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September 12th, 2007 at 12:32 am
Great idea! Motherhood is just the greatest, greatest thing. I’m impressed that you could put it into words. Congrats!
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