Yes, here is yet another letter to you. I try to be understanding I try to help you have a relationship with your daughter, but it seems like half the time I am the only one trying.

We have an agreement. All back to school supplies and clothes are to be split. Knowing that we are living life a little more comfortably than you, I always try to give you the least amount of stuff to buy as possible. I only asked for you to purchase 1/4 of the supplies this year and one pair of pants. Really not a lot. really.

Yet you can’t even do that. Why? I know you don’t have easy transportation. I know you work. But if something is important to you or your kids, you get it done and on time. That’s what being a mother is about. Normally mothers don’t have back up mothers (me) to rely on and know they will pick up your slack. And I am tired of it.

I have raised your child for more years than you have even been allowed to see her and yet you think for some reason you are due the normal “pluses” of being a mother. Just because you opened your legs 10 years ago and got impregnated and then popped her out nine months later doesn’t make you entitled to be basking in the glory of child rearing.

I am the one that drives her everyplace. I take her to the doctors when she is sick. I wash her clothes, do homework with her, and everything else a mother does. So the fact that you felt the need to go talk to her teacher without me today is an outrage. And then. and then say because you just wanted to meet her and bask in the glory of having A as your daughter? Really?

I mean what did you contribute to help raise her to the way she is? Was it the way you were 20 minutes late today and made A think you weren’t coming? (Do you think my mom isn’t coming x20) Thats a great way to teach her the importance of being to school on time. Or maybe the way you led by example with a lesson on how being a procrastinator will let people down. Or what about the time you told her the blatantly stupid lies on why you couldn’t be here for her birthday?

So if you think about it, I guess you have helped. You have helped us show A what will happen if you become an alcoholic, drug addict and general bad choice maker. And for that thanks.

And by the way. You can thank your 10 page long arrest record braking hubby for instilling a concern in A for her eyebrows. What are you guys thinking? She is freaking 9 years old! Why should she be concerned for the shape and waxing of her eyebrows? To even suggest that a girl at this young, insecure age be concerned about something so minute and frivolous is just disgusting.

-The full time back up mum

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